The frozen embrace of Sweden – So Sweden – Living Differently – the perfect read for now

Arriving, setting yourself up and living in Sweden can be daunting. It’s a cool enigma, a challenge, unique, amazingly unknown – and now your home! How are you going to manage this riddle?

Alison Allfrey writes:
"I arrived in Stockholm with my husband and two young boys in July 2012 with little or no knowledge of Sweden. I had lived abroad in France before as part of my degree, but never in Scandinavia. This was a journey of discovery, challenges, revelations and one which changed our outlook and sphere of experience.

Being in Sweden was tough to start with, the umbilical cord with the UK seemingly cut, the inevitability of months of cold winter beckoning and a sense of bewilderment with so much change to assimilate. The boys were all at sea, my husband had to get used to office politics Swedish style, I was juggling all this plus working freelance.

For a while it seemed uphill work, but having formulated an attitude of trying to adventure and make the most of all the opportunities our ex-pat posting presented, we began to peel back the layers of what Sweden and friendships with people from across Europe and the world had to offer. It was hugely invigorating, liberating and exciting. In the end, we really didn’t want to leave.
 
An experience that has remained with us, three pivotal years where we somehow transitioned from nervous ex-pats to lovers of the Swedish way of life.

I have explored and chronicled these precious memories and experiences in So Sweden – Living Differently, available on Amazon.

At a time where all our worlds seem more confined and uncertain, take the time to relax with what I hope is essential reading for ex-pats in Sweden. I hope it will give you courage in the darker moments and insight into many of the wonders waiting to be discovered.

Still inspired by Sweden, I am currently completing Stockholm – Sweden at your Fingertips in conjunction with specialist ex-pat guide to Stockholm, Jessica Dolling Gripberg. At once insightful, inspirational, practical and humorous, this is what every newcomer to Sweden needs to get started, understand how to fit in and discover special places that will begin to make Sweden feel like home. It has a wealth of insight and detail, from key tips about working practices, winter tyres and how best to amuse children on dark winter days, to monthly ideas for making the most of the highlights of the year in Sweden, recipes so you can conjure up Swedish specialities, and ideas for discovering the archipelago, beautiful castles, the exhilaration of skating on open ice and thrill of dog sledding. Look out for it on Amazon this spring!
 
 
Synopsis of So Sweden – Living Differently

In 2012 an adventurer, a linguist and their two small boys left the hedged  
cosiness of rural England for the mysterious, watery expanses of Sweden and  
magnetic draw of ravishing Stockholm. Out of the comfort zone and into a  
vast, detached, pristine country with a different DNA - unflinching pride,  
egalitarianism, hair-shirt doggedness and immersion in nature. A challenging  
conundrum and life abroad with a difference - red wooden houses, tortuous  
vowels, feet of snow, studded tyres, ABBA and a constant seasonal symbiosis  
between water in every form and light of astonishing clarity.

Grappling with a people wrapped in a cloak of silence until the awakening  
call of spring, a fierce climate and a sense of isolation was baffling. But  
liberation from England’s strictures, adventure and the chance to embrace  
Sweden’s calm otherness and families from across the world brought new  
imperatives – open-mindedness, perseverance and living for the moment.  
After 18 months they didn’t want to leave.

So Sweden is the intrepid, wry and enlightening story of the life-changing  
posting to Stockholm of a family from a ‘non-skiing nation’. A journey  
from apprehension to almost unconditional adoration of a cool, distinct  
country, admired from afar, little known. Sweden.

"Fantastically witty tale about living in the cold country of ’lagom’.  
Such a hilarious, but at the same to very accurate, description of the  
challenges of adapting to the Scandinavian way of living. Wonderful language.  
A must read for anyone visiting or moving to Sweden". (Helena Wigart, Amazon  
customer)

"This book is a delight. An easy read with a loving and accurate description  
of embracing Swedish life in all the brilliant moments and some of the  
frustrating ones too. It is a real family memoir and beautifully written".  
(Amazon customer)

"So Sweden' is a charming memoir of a family's three-year posting to Sweden.  
Allfrey's is a fresh, authentic voice behind writing that is both clean and  
descriptive. Images of snow - 40 different kinds of wax for skis and the  
first sightings of spring - are beautifully described as is the author's love  
of good food. The challenges that face not only young mothers but any family  
in a foreign land are met with humour and courage. Ultimately the love for  
their adoptive country shines through". (Susana Ingram, Amazon customer).